Because of inflated egos and a lack of self-awareness, Narcissistic people will often love-bomb, gaslight, or criticize others while demanding constant praise. Narcissists can do no wrong, meaning someone else is always to blame for their actions.

Here are nine signs of narcissism to watch for:

Gaslighting: Gaslighting is a manipulation strategy that narcissists use to distort the truth. They will attempt to convince you that past events transpired differently from how you remember them.

Conditional love: A narcissist will not freely give their love. Instead, they demand that you make yourself worthy of their affection by meeting certain conditions or behaving in a certain way.

Everything is about them: Narcissists cannot abide it when they are not the center of attention, even during unpleasant or traumatic events. You will hear them use phrases like “You’re so insecure” or “Stop overreacting.”

You are silenced or ignored: You are ignored or silenced when discussing your needs or feelings and made to feel like you don’t matter.

You feel anxious in their company:  The unpredictable behavior of a narcissist can make you feel uneasy whenever they are around. You never know what to expect and live in fear of their anger.

They maintain other unhealthy relationships: A narcissist will often engage in negative behavior towards others. They may be derogatory towards another person, resort to name-calling, be aggressive, or display jealousy.

They are never wrong: A narcissist can never admit a mistake. Instead, they will expect you always to support them, agree with them, or be on their side.

You are responsible for their well-being: Narcissists hold others accountable for their happiness, demand validation for their well-being, and will expect you to shoulder the burden of their negative emotions.

They love-bomb you: Love-bombing is emotional manipulation, where the narcissist will shower you with affection and love to gain your trust and admiration. They do this to win your favor so you will shower them with praise and fulfill their craving to be desired and admired.

Lacking empathy: Because narcissists are so wrapped up in themselves, they can’t understand or share the emotions or perspectives of others. They also fail to recognize subtle cues that indicate distress or unhappiness in another person. This lack of empathy causes them to engage in insensitive or hurtful behavior.

When to Get Help

Narcissistic personalities are rarely aware of their disorder, so knowing when to seek help to address personal growth and self-improvement is challenging for them. While your family member may dispute the need for treatment, a therapist can still provide a safe outlet for you to discuss your issues, develop coping strategies, and plan for your future. Click here to learn more: Trauma Treatment